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slammerkinbabe ([personal profile] slammerkinbabe) wrote2014-03-17 03:04 pm

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Fred Phelps, founder of the Westboro Baptist Church, is dying. Please please please don't picket his funeral.

Let's remember why all the funeral pickets were awful: because they made the funerals hell for those who were grieving. Picketing a funeral does nothing to the dead. But the people who grieve for Phelps are not all terrible. Many of his children have left the church,* but that doesn't mean that in some complicated way they may not still love their father, and whether they do or not, they deserve closure. A funeral can provide that. But not if it takes place with hatred being shouted in the background.

And above all: Phelps's protests were based in hate. LGBTQ activism is based in love, not hate.

Please don't picket Phelps's funeral.

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*Incidentally, VERY weird detail in that article: Phelps himself was excommunicated from the church in the middle of last year. No one outside the WBC knows the reason. Some are theorizing he had a change of heart, but that seems improbable to me, after a lifetime of fiercely determined hatred. Very interesting though.
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[personal profile] ganimede 2014-03-17 09:11 pm (UTC)(link)
At the end of the day, he's still someone's son and father and friend etc. Funerals aren't for the dead anyway, are they, they're really for those mourning their loss. And it's not their fault he was consumed by such hatred.

[identity profile] slammerkinbabe.livejournal.com 2014-03-18 02:35 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I agree. For people who abhor him and want to picket - that's not doing anything to *him*...
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[personal profile] ganimede 2014-03-18 08:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Indeed. It wouldn't send a good message about the LGBT community either, it would just show that we'd sunk down to his level and become exactly the same as he is.